KNOW YOUR TRUE FRIEND

WHO IS A TRUE FRIEND?

This is the most misunderstood relationship in our lives – a classmate, companion, cousin, colleague, an acquaintance or even a neighbour, with whom one can spend time on meaningful or casual discussions is considered a friend.

Yes, most of these people may appear to be pals because they have the same interests to match your wavelength. But in all likelihood, majority of these companions may not be your true friend, although they may appear to be one.

Rather, a true friend is anyone who is your genuine well-wisher, and one who loves to see you prosper and be happy.

10 SIGNS OF A TRUE FRIEND

Let us identify the qualities and attributes that sort out true friends from opportunists and those with mere pretensions of being your well-wisher.

APPRECIATES YOUR GOOD

A friend is one who is genuinely interested in your good, and feels elated with any growth or success news you share – be it related to profession, marriage, family, children etc.

Those who can’t appreciate and admire your accomplishments can never be your trusted companion.

YOUR GENUINE CRITIQUE

Opposite though it may seem, the golden rule to identify your true friend is to see if that person is your genuine critique. It is only your true well-wisher who would point out your mistakes and drawbacks or forewarn you of adverse possibilities from time to time. This is not done with the intent to demoralize you but to ensure you eliminate your shortcomings, and subsequently your performance and success rates improve.

On the other hand, your ill-wishers or those jealous of you will never point out your mistakes because they don’t wish you to succeed. Rather they would praise or flatter you on the blunders you are committing to ensure you are unable to improve yourself and progress further. Beware of such people who would mesmerize you, but can never be your dependable friends.

A FRIEND IN NEED

A friend in need is a friend indeed. True to this proverb, look around you and see who are the people standing by you in the hour of your crisis.

However, there is no need to wait for the occurrence of a troublesome event in your life to recognize your mate. Simply study the history of these individuals in your circle, if they have extended their helping hands when their acquaintances were in distress. Their past behaviour will reveal their real nature and dependability.

HELPFUL OR SELFISH

Try to observe whether an acquaintance in general is of helpful or selfish nature. Remember, those who are self-centred and more concerned with securing their own interests, are basically opportunists who can never be a supportive friend to anybody, including you.

FALSE PRAISE

There are people who would shower false praises on you all the time – beware of this group, as their intent is to keep you in good humour so that their own interests are realized through you.

RIGHT GUIDANCE

A friend is one who is trustworthy and shares the right guidance with you.

While interacting with different individuals, initially one won’t be able to judge their motives, but over a period of time you can make out whether their advises were genuine or intended to misguide you.

SHARING PERSONAL DETAILS

There may be people who would always collect all of your personal details but never divulge their own particulars. In this process, they are keeping a tab on you and your progress, which you share with him because you trust him as your friend. But on the other hand, he does not confide in you, and therefore, can never be your friend.

TENDENCY TO INSULT

A person who demeans and insults you under different circumstances, is either jealous of you or hates you. It is their hatred born out of envious nature that will always make them think of hurting, harming and humiliating others. Else, none would belittle anyone whom they love.

One should permanently strike off such people from their lives because haters bring only destruction.

DEMORALIZE & MENTALLY BREAK YOU

Those who tend to demoralize with negative opinion whenever you discuss different plans of future or share some success stories are the ones who detest you from growing.

Again, some would pick up issues from time to time and mentally wreck you, knowing that you have a longing and weakness over the said matters. These individuals would love to see you suffer, and this is a sadistic pleasure for them.

CRITICISM OF OTHERS

Those who criticize others in their absence are the ones who can never be a true friend. First of all, they can’t see any good in their acquaintances but can only see their negative sides. The vibrations and frequencies they evoke bring only despondency in you.

More importantly, such a person will criticize you too at your back, no matter how good a friend you consider him to be. Say no to all negativity!